From kenrbnsn at rbnsn.com  Wed Feb 23 20:04:01 2005
From: kenrbnsn at rbnsn.com (Ken Robinson)
Date: Wed, 23 Feb 2005 20:04:01 -0500
Subject: [Squaredancing] Fwd: Dance and sex
Message-ID: <6.2.1.2.2.20050223195848.03da2ea8@mail.rbnsn.com>

Note: This message was originally posted on the trad-dance-callers list on 
Yahoo by Seth Tepfer <mailto:labst at emory.edu>. He gave me permission to 
post it on this list.

Apologies to those of you who are members of the other list and have 
already seen and possibly commented on the posting.

Ken Robinson


>This list has been too quiet lately. Let's see if I can stir up some
>discussion.
>
>I'd like to have an open discussion about dance and sex.
>
>I know we love family dances. We want to bring dance to all - from 6 to
>96.  We encourage people to come to the dance as a safe space - singles,
>marrieds, kids, teens, whatever. It's not a meat market. It's not a singles
>bar. We try to provide a 'family' atmosphere. This is not an 'adult only'
>event.
>
>But still.
>
>Dance has eons of history as courtship ritual. It is far to easy to make a
>case that having kids dance is all about socializing for appropriate
>behavior for the opposite sex (of which the behaviors translates just fine
>to same sex relationships too). Dancing has long been a form of courtship.
>And there is plenty of courtship on the floor.
>
>We love long flirty gazes. We love the deep satisfying contact of a swing,
>of a balance done together.
>
>Within contra, how many times have we seen singles coming to the dance for
>years, meet someone, get married, and stop coming to the dance?
>
>The dance *IS* all about sex. The flirting, whether playful without meaning
>or filled with intent and purpose, is about sex.
>
>I know I'm merely rambling here. But there is a subtle inconsistency I'm
>trying to explore. Any thoughts out there about this?
>
>===== Seth Tepfer - DanceRhapsody: Connecting Hearts, Soles and Music ========
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>Dance saying of the moment:
>I would not know what the spirit of a philosopher might wish more to be
>than a good dancer. ? Friedrich Nietzsche