[Squaredancing] Question

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At 11:40 AM -0400 6/8/05, Dick Callander wrote:

> Our club has  just recently  begin having single members or solos
> as they can be called.

Congratulations.

> What is the proper accepted way for a single lady to acquire a
> dance partner ?

I presume you also want this answer for a single man acquiring a
dance partner.

What have you been doing heretofore when a married couple are
members but only one of them comes to the dance ?

> Should she sit on the sidelines and wait to be ask,

That is good if s/he doesn't _really_ want to dance.
But if s/he wants to dance s/he should ask someone.
There is no reason for only men to ask.

Choosing the someone often takes local knowledge, so existing
members should help people in this position for a few weeks,
just as they help visitors in this situation.

> or simple stand in a square and wait for a man to fall in beside her ? 
 
At most clubs where I dance it is _not_ acceptable for someone who
has not yet found a partner for this tip to occupy a "slot" when
people who have found partners are still looking for a square.
That convention starts to evaporate when the last square is forming
and all the remaining bystanders seem not inclined to join in without
encouragement.  Quite often, a remaining couple on the sidelines will
have only _one_ member who wants to dance.  This is an ideal situation
for having people who can dance either gender role.
-- 
Larry Kilgallen